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The line between pushy and asking....

I am not sure when asking a question becomes pushy. I think my friend who lives with us has something going on that she is not talking about. I want to ask her about it, but I don't wanna seem pushy. I love her, but we are not really in a "talking about important stuff" phase right now. I try to tell myself that if she wants to talk about it she will talk, but I just feel like I am acting uninterested. This confuses me, because I want to be respectful. So I am conflicted about whether or not I should ask her about it.

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It's always nice to hear that someone is interested in what's going on.

I think if you approach it as "Hey, we haven't gotten into it about things in awhile, how are things with you?" she would just take it as friendly talk.

I don't know what your relationship is, but considering the fact that we are both on this sub, I think it can't hurt to say that if either you or I had a friend sit down with us, pour a glass of wine and say "how are things really going", we would love the opportunity to vent.

Maybe it would make her day the way that it would make mine.

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Original Poster1 point · 4 years ago

Normally this is how I would handle it. However, this particular friend is extremely private and secretive to an extent. The look she gives me sometimes when I ask her questions makes me feel uncomfortably like I've crossed some imaginary line. that is what is especially hard for me, because I don't have line between me and my friends, I will talk about anything no problem.

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